Susan Cain: The power of introverts

Three calls to action:
1. Stop the madness for constant group work.
2. Go to the wilderness - be like Buddah, have your own revelations.
3. Understand the content of your suitcase, understand why you put it there and share it.

"I prefer listening to talking, reading to socializing … I like to think before I speak (softly)." - Susan Cain

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If you haven't heard of ted.com, definitely explore it. It's a platform where lectures are collected and shared - its mantra is "ideas worth spreading". I often have lectures playing as I work or as I draw, clean, or anything that leaves time for my ears take in whatever insightful knowledge specialists are willing to share. Most of these lectures have great personalities so it makes the lecture very easy to listen to.

This lecture was dear to me as I'm a self-prescribed introvert. I prefer intimate settings and privacy over overwhelming social scenes where my senses are numbed and where my stomach is left a little unsettled. Granted, if need be, I'd like to believe I'm capable of being a proper social citizen. However, there has been times when I shut down, this occurs mainly when the company shows itself to be shallow, relative to my perception of course.

I would like to say I've adopted this from my father as he's an introvert and never enjoyed social settings - my mother was the opposite. When I was little, my mother would want to give me birthday parties and my dad would lock himself in the room. I've never questioned or explored what caused him to be an introvert but I think my issues are a little, if not a lot, less dependent than the adoption of introversion through seeing my father's behavior manifesting through his action, or lack of.

For me, there are several reasons for my introversion -introversion is a good defense mechanism, introversion allows for my thought to develop without static influences, and introversion as a default because i do not know of extroversion organically.

Introversion as a reason to allow my thought to be develop is discussed by Susan so I don't have to go into details.

Growing up without a good command of the english language and without the best of the Jone's material possessions, I've learned that there's little room for me to foster confidence from the ignorant comments or judgement that's passed on to me from my peers or those with titles whereby I'm led to believe defines me (teachers, family members, employers, etc). Granted, during the last few years this is different, however, nuture (vs nature) has conditioned me to be insecure and has led me to see that introversion helps provide a shelter where my insecurities are left alone.